Many otherkin and therians believe their otherness is caused by reincarnation: from living a past life (or many lives) as something other than human, such that it shaped their spirit or influenced who they are now. Otherkin in particular often seek to remember more of their non-human lifetimes to glean more information about who and what they once were.
I will not be talking about how to remember your past lives here. There are spades of new age websites and books providing tips and techniques of varying quality. What I see less of, and what I’m more interested in, is this:
How do you deal with past life memories?
My otherkin nature is not past-life based, and I’ve never sought to remember my past lives, but I’ve had memories surface unbidden. Moments of this life, or that one; emotional and tactile snapshots, never whole-cloth memories. For me, it happens as vivid recurring nightmares, or as an unfolding pressure behind my forehead, a blur of emotion and knowing and sensation. Sometimes they’re memories that affect me now, in the present. Sometimes they’re intrusive. Often they’re unpleasant – hence why I’ve not tried to remember more.
Traumatic memories seem to stick with people more vividly than pleasant ones. I know I’m not alone or even uncommon in my experience; I’ve met many people who’ve remembered downright terrible things happening to them (or by them). Sometimes that-which-was bleeds into that-which-is: I dissociated one past life self for a time, and I know others who’ve had similar experiences, or who have shifted back and forth between their now-personality and their then-personality when processing a particular lifetime.
And so, my challenge is this: How do you deal with past life memories? How do you handle intrusive memories? How do you process past memories, and what do you do if you-that-was is someone that you can’t seem to respect or approve of?